Hi Karen

Just wanted to let you know that the exercises "homework" you provided are going really well. Thank you very, very much. 

Thanks Karen!!

Can't believe how you managed to connect so well with my husband - he never wanted to see a counsellor, let alone a female - and he left feeling really heard

Oh Hi Karen!!

We are going well! Things have imporoved, especially our communication and "####" will actually sit down and talk! We are both making much more of an effort. "####?" is out of the state for the rest of the week - I hope we can both come and see you again when he's back ... I am keen we don't slip back into how we were before. Can't thank you enough for helping us make the strides we have already x


It was great to talk to you again after a 5 year break ... we really love you because you truly inspired us and gave us hope as well as the tools to keep going forward. May 2019 

Hi Karen

Thank you so much. Things are really good and we are both working really hard at it. We have been talking more, been on date nights and ust nicer to each other so thank you so much. I honestly can't thank you enought for saving our marriage!! ... May 2019

Karen, just wanted to say

thank you for today. It was a difficult start ... we both came home (without arguing!) and did the exercises which I found surprising very helpful ... March 2019 

Hi Karen

I can't thank you enough. It is such a relief to be sitting here on a Monaday morning feeling that "####" and I have had a good weekend where we have actually been able to communicate, connect and give each other the space we need to do our own stuff .... March 2019 

I never expected ... 

you to be following us up on the weekend in your time just to check in. It was those few contacts that really saved us. thanks Karen from both of us. Pam ..... February 2019 

I had serious doubts ...

that you would be able to help us. The fact that you were able to talk directly to us without ever appearing to take sides in hindsight was amazing. We both needed to hear what you had to say. Thanks again Karen. We will be in touch for regular followups. R & D .... February 2019 

Thanks ... (for Fiona)
The education and insights you provided along the way while helping us to understand each other more was soo helpful. Jen .... Jan 2019
I chose Karen...

...because she was local. Although that was absolutely necessary given both our commitments ... work and kids ... that is not why I would recommend her now. She quickly got to the heart of our issues and really helped us see how poor communication was destroying our marriage. Robert ..... December 2018 

I want to thank you again 

for holding the space (as intense as it was) for me and my family. I really appreciate the time and energy you made for us Neil to work through the issues that have plagued our relationship. C and M

I would like to say a big thank you to Karen

I know we only met twice but she provided me with an outlet to express my true feelings about my relationship, something I had not been able to face. To be able to talk about my thoughts and feelings without being judged allowed me to see clearer. Furthermore, you gave me the tools that allowed me to see the truth. N

Karen is a truly warm, supportive and sincere human being

who is passionate about what she does and genuinely cares. I would not hesitate in recommending her. SA

Thank you so much for all your support this year,

I could not have made the changes in my relationship without you (Neil). I will be forever grateful. L 

Thank you so much for seeing my husband and I

at such short notice. We gained much understanding from our session. E and R (Fiona) 

I'd like to acknowledge ...

and thank Karen sincerely for my amazing transformation. Karen is very passionate about her work with a genuine interest in helping people achieve their goals. I highly recommend Karen to anyone who needs a life changing experience...JM  

Also we both wanted to let you (Neil) know ...

that things are really, really good for M and I. We took your advice and had a mini holiday up in Coffs Harbour last week after we left your place. You made us see things a lot more clearly, we have spent the last week talking and spending time together. Amazing things have happened in our relationship, we seem to have found what we thought we had lost, and its even better than it was. Thank you for letting us see a way to go forward together. We are looking forward to seeing you at 7am on Thursday. 

Now we know ... (for Karen)

We never really understood the difference between a counsellor and a relationship counsellor. We first got a referral to a psychologist by our GP, and then we tried a local counsellor. Both were lovely people, very caring and knowledgeable. But our marriage continued to deteriorate. Thank you soo much for the help you gave us. The process, structure and worksheets were fantastic - concise and understandable, even my husband read them. Our marriage has gone from a 2 out of 10 to a 7 ... and continues to get better. We can't recommend you (Karen) strongly enough. Kate 

Thanks Karen,

you have been an angel. You got right to the core of the problems, and weren't afraid to speak directly to both of us. I thought it was all my husband's fault, but now understand that 'it takes two' is not just a clique. Jane 

Hi Neil

I just wanted to drop you a line thanking you ... You continually go above and beyond the call of duty in your work and I just wanted to let you know how much it is appreciated. 

thanks to Fiona  ...

I started seeing Fiona about 6 months ago when my life was feeling out-of-control ... I am getting back on track and excited for what the future holds LB 

Thanks ever so much for all you did to resurrect our lives, Neil

We have the highest respect for Neil’s counselling as he managed to help save our nearly 30 year marriage from the brink of breakdown. I was devastated when I first rang Neil for an appointment as my husband had actually threatened to leave after we had gradually drifted apart. Through counselling both of us, separately and then together, Neil used his remarkable insight to help us reconnect by enabling us to understand each other to a much greater degree. For example, although my husband is basically a very caring husband and father, he had slipped into increasingly negative behaviour through constant anger and criticism, which was quite irrational at times. Neil was able to help me make sense of this. Once enlightened by this whole new perspective, a higher tolerance followed, resulting in me becoming less distant towards my husband. This in turn, allowed us to refocus on the positive aspects of why we had married in the first place, leading to an upward spiral in our relationship.

H & H

thanks ...

I truly thought there was no hope for us. My husband seems so thoughtless and selfish and I never thought the issues we were experiencing could be resolved. Neil, through delicate probing and exploration, actually showed me how my communications and responses were contributing to my husband’s behaviours. We have now been 6 times and we are both so thrilled where we are at and how we are getting on. Cetainly beats dividing everything in half. Amazing how you can get a totally different perspective on a relationship. What a great investment!! Joan

Dear Karen,

We both want to take this opportunity to thank you so much for helping us, we were on the downslope to nothing good but feel happy and much better about life in general and our Family.
So thanks once again Karen.
Kind regards K & P M.

from 0 out of 10

One of the questions Neil asked us during our first session was where was our marriage at present. I said 0 and my husband said 1. Looking back it couldn’t really have been much worse.
We have seen Neil 5 times now, and everytime we have taken small but positive steps forward. We are both around 6 out of 10 - which may not sound ideal - but it is so far from 0 that I cannot express how thrilled we both are. It has required both of us to go on a personal journey of looking at what beliefs and behaviours were really of no use to our relationship, and by letting go of them, we are both so much happier. That was not easy tho. 
We will get to 8 - of that there is no doubt. And that is an exciting prospect.

just been back for our monthly 'top-up'

When we first came to see Neil I really thought that our 12 year marriage was at an end. We just continuously fought about everything - and most things were really minor.
The insights we have gained into our partner’s behaviours and our own responses (and behaviours) have been life changing.
We now just enjoy coming along and discussing the few minor issues that have happened over the last month - and looking at them from different perspectives. John and Julie

It is amazing

how you were able to get me to view the situation differently by just asking some simple questions. And it was not about right and wrong, just one interpretation vs another. Thanks Karen - I will try and apply this technique myself when I am getting upse over something that really doens't matter. A

thank you for saving our marriage
Having been married for nearly 30 years, and with many years of unhappiness behind us, we really came along to counselling thinking there was probably no hope, but it may help us separate respectfully, now the kids have grown up. Neil, using a combination of methods that involved us working together on some things as well as some individual sessions, has restored our marriage to a place it hasn’t been for many many years. We can’t say thanks enough. Mary

you said if we were "both committed...." and you were right

… things couldn’t be better!! We have been relating really well to each other and spending a lot of time together again.

… so all in all, you have worked miracles! We will probably see you again in the next month or two

… I’d like to thank you for all your invaluable advice and your impartial position. JB

Thank you

I am finally able to forgive my husband even though I still cannot forget what he did. At least I know where to go now Karen when I need someone to talk to. IS.

it's great to feel less stressed ...

I was recommended by a friend to see Neil as I have been suffering from anxiety and stress for several years now and it has been getting worse.

I have been married 17 years and have 3 kids - 1 in primary and 2 in high school - and life has been becoming just far too difficult.

I met with Neil a total of 4 times, and he did a variety of exercises with me including hypnotherapy and the results were amazing, even from the first session. I was skeptical about hypnotherapy before meeting Neil but now can’t speak highly enough of it.

We also spent time discussing my home life and my relationship with my husband, and the insights I have gained have also had a huge impact - not just for me but for all the family.

I have to say it was one of the best investments I have made in a long time. I am now working on my husband to make an appointment!!


I didn't think relationship counselling would work

We had been in conflict for about 6 months, all due to a single incident which completely underminded our respect for each other and our confidence that this relationship was right. We decided to try couple counselling, although we were both fairly sceptical.

Neil pushed us to really confront what was going on for each of us, how it left the other feeling when we behaved as we did. It wasn’t easy moving away from our own feelings and trying to appreciate how our own actions negatively affected the other.

After 4 sessions we are getting on better than ever, have a much better understanding of what makes each other tick, vastly improved communications, and are looking forward to a great future.

We plan to come back every 3 months for a ‘top up’ as the whole process has been most enlightening.